Resource: Free to Parent Chapter One and Free to Parent Workbook Chapter One


Beth superwoman 2Some of my grandchildren love to imagine they are superheroes. It’s entertaining to watch them “fly” around in their superman clothing, using their “super powers” to defend and (yes) even attack each other. To fantasize being super human is such fun play for them.
It’s certainly entertaining to watch children play imaginary games, which are actually beneficial to their development. It’s quite another thing, however, to be deceived into thinking we can make ourselves into supermoms and superdads raising future supermen and superwomen.The truth is, apart from Christ we will never feel complete or wholly sufficient.

The truth is, apart from Christ we will never feel complete or wholly sufficient.

In fact, the way to wholeness is found in realizing our very brokenness. It’s when we admit our shortcomings, embrace God’s grace, and allow His power to be made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12: 8),  that we will actually find our strength.

Christ frees me and completes me when I let go of ME and choose HIM instead.

It’s the same with our kids. Be watchful for false deceptions – ones that tell them they can be anything, do anything, and have anything they want simply by trying hard enough on their own. These deceptions make it very difficult for kids to admit their mistakes or face their failures, or recognize their deep need for grace. Doing so is admitting they fall short, that they are not enough on their own.

In our parenting, we must always gently and wisely be leading our children to see their personal need of Jesus and to find their identity in what He says about them.

They must become “poor in spirit” to gain the kingdom of heaven. (Matthew 5:3)
They need to discover that the way up is really found on the way down. Some may even have to hit rock bottom in order to have their eyes opened to spiritual truths.

Comprehending who we are in Christ is vital in our sanctification as believers.

Salvation is the first step, but believing children will still need frequent reminders of the vast difference between their true identity in Christ and what the enemy of their soul would lead them to believe. (See list below.) An identity rooted in Christ will not fall for deception by the deceiver who is out to steal and kill and destroy (John 10:10).

 What does the Bible tell us about our identity in Christ VERSUS what the deceiver would have us believe:

I am justified (Romans 5:1) VERSUS I am condemned.
I belong to God (1 Corinthians 6:20) VERSUS  I belong to myself.
I am a member of Christ’s body (1 Corinthians 12:27) VERSUS no one else can tell me what to do.
I am forgiven (Ephesians 1:7-8; Colossians 1:14) VERSUS I am judged.
I am God’s workmanship created for good works (Ephesians 2:10) VERSUS I will pursue my own desires.
I have peace.(Ephesians 2:14) VERSUS I have anxiety.
I can approach God with freedom and confidence (Ephesians 3:12) VERSUS God is distant from me.
I am a holy temple  (1 Corinthians 6:19) VERSUS what I do with my body is up to me.
I am completed by God (Ephesians 3:19) VERSUS I must complete myself.
I am confident that God will perfect the work He has begun in me (Philippians 1:6) VERSUS I must perfect myself.
I can understand what God’s will is (Ephesians 5:17) VERSUS I have to figure out my own path.
I am set free (Romans 8:2; John 8:32) VERSUS I am in bondage to my own desires.
I am more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37) VERSUS I fear failure. 
I am a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17) VERSUS I am who I am and cannot change.
I possess the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16) VERSUS My own mind is wise enough. 
I am a citizen of Heaven (Philippians 3:20) VERSUS My life on earth is all I have.