But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Romans 5:8


I recently attended a wedding during which the bride and groom exchanged vows they themselves had written. The words were heart felt and inspiring. The bride actually put her words into a song and surprised everyone by singing them directly to her husband-to-be. I doubt there was a dry eye in the place. Both her words and his were about a commitment to love each other well for a lifetime.

 For a bride and groom at a wedding, it’s hard to imagine anything but happiness together, but then life begins to happen.

Selfish people marry selfish people and all too often marital bliss turns into an endless battleground in which both are wounded repeatedly. Selfishness is our greatest human struggle and nowhere is this clearer than right in our homes with those we supposedly love the most. There we make daily decision out of love for ourselves or out of love for others.
Couples who choose to walk in God’s love however focus not on seeking their own happiness but on taking good care of the other flawed individual they have chosen to share their lives with. When each person chooses the happiness of his or her spouse over enjoyment for self, marriage becomes a reflection of God’s love, and joy is the outcome for both.

 The most dynamic way to show our kids God’s love is to demonstrate it to each other.

Regardless of your spouse’s temperament or how much he or she annoys you.
Regardless of how disappointed you are or how unsupported you feel.
1 Corinthians 13 is an inspiration passage of scripture, meant not just for a marriage ceremony, but for each and every one of us.  We are to walk out love by being patient and kind, not envious, boastful, arrogant or rude, to not insist on our own way or be irritable or resentful, or rejoice in wrongdoing. It’s a life practice to seek truth, to bear all things with those we love, to believe and hope for God’s best and to endure.

When all is said and done, love never fails.

As we celebrate the Easter holiday, may we reflect deeply on the sacrificial love that God bestowed on us by sending His son Jesus to die on the cross so that we could be free – free from ourselves and the snare of selfishness. His gift of love is not a passive gift however. Rather it’s a gift we must allow to penetrate out hearts and then walk out actively by loving others as He loves us. And the most important place to walk in His gift of love is with the people we live out life with.