Mini Blog #8: Helping Kids Find Their Identity in Christ

Resource: Free to Parent Chapter One and Free to Parent Workbook Chapter One   Some of my grandchildren love to imagine they are superheroes. It’s entertaining to watch them “fly” around in their superman clothing, using their “super powers” to defend and (yes) even attack each other. To fantasize being super human is such fun play for them. It’s certainly entertaining to watch children play imaginary games, which are actually beneficial to their development. It’s quite another thing, however, to be deceived into thinking we can make ourselves into supermoms and superdads raising future supermen and superwomen.The truth is, apart from Christ we will never feel complete or wholly sufficient. The truth is, apart from Christ we will never feel complete or wholly sufficient. In fact, the way to wholeness is found in realizing our very brokenness. It’s when we admit our shortcomings, embrace God’s grace, and allow His power to be made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12: 8),  that we will actually find our strength. Christ frees me and completes me when I let go of ME and choose HIM instead. It’s the same with our kids. Be watchful for false deceptions – ones that tell them they can be anything, do anything, and have anything they want simply by trying hard enough on their own. These deceptions make it very difficult for kids to admit their mistakes or face their failures, or recognize their deep need for grace. Doing so is admitting they fall short, that they are not enough on their own. In our parenting, we must always gently and wisely be leading our children to...