Kathy Koch in the up and coming movie CONNECT by Kirk Cameron

You may already be acquainted with Kathy Koch, but if not, I would like to introduce you to her.  She is a fabulous author and speaker, someone I always enjoy learning from, because she is both inspiring and practical.  She has written a number of important books and writes a blog that I encourage you to sign up for.  Kathy Koch founded Celebrate Kids 26 years ago, a ministry through which she helps others build lives with meaningful purpose. She recently wrote Screens and Teens, a book that I highly recommend as well.  It’s about “connecting with our kids in a wireless world.”  To that end she will be an “educational expert in the up and coming movie CONNECT by Kirk Cameron. This movie will be show around the nation, (Austin area theaters included) on February 27th and March 1.  You can go here and enter your zip code to see which theaters in your town will show it on February 27 and March 1. Check out a short trailer of this important movie, which will be a great resource in teaching children in the midst of the challenges technology and social media can create. Buy your tickets in advance to secure a theatre seat for this important movie. Kathy Koch: “As I write about in Screens and Teens, helplessness can be an effect of digital devices. Kids of all ages believe things should be easy, learning shouldn’t take any effort, and winning should be guaranteed. Of course, none of this is true!”          ...

2018: Walk Humbly With God

  “God doesn’t hide Himself from you so that He can’t be found; He hides Himself from you so that He can be found.” (Tommy Tenney in The God Chasers) It’s 5:30 AM on New Year’s Day 2018.  A light sprinkling of snow covers the ground and it’s 25 degrees out.  Not exactly the norm in Austin, Texas! I am reminded of a similar early morning back in Bend, Oregon on New Year’s Day 2001. Just like this morning, light snow was whirling in the breeze outside the window as I sat, with a coffee cup in hand, pondering how to begin writing personal thoughts and prayers into my first journal.  I remember feeling empty and weary, hoping that somehow journaling would relieve the aching in my discouraged heart. I was determined to begin a daily practice of journaling, one that I still do on most days. I didn’t write much that first day – I had little to write about with a heart that felt empty. But it was a start, now a personal hallmark, because my spiritual life caught a small spark that day that has never gone out. I desperately wanted to discover a life-giving walk with God.  I knew it was possible but I didn’t know how. I had attended church my entire adult life and earnestly tried to be a good Christian wife and mother.  My efforts had drained me however.  Something was missing and I wanted to discover what it was. I wrote down these three goals in that first journal: To earnestly seek to know God and understand His nature Pray diligently...

Immanuel: God With Us

Merry Christmas! I love Christmas time. The traditions. Decorations. Music. Parties. Even the gift buying. It’s a joyful time. Every year, the day after Christmas, I purchase the next year’s holiday clothing for my grandkids and look forward to handing them out at Thanksgiving.  They are still young enough to let me pick out something for them to wear. Kate and Haddie are beginning to express personal opinions about clothing however but here they are frolicking happily in the dresses they received. So fun. Christmas feels precious to me this year.  More so than previously. I think it’s because my perspective is changing. This year, as I ponder the familiar biblical accounts of the birth of Jesus, I am seeing it in a different light.  I am seeing Jesus as Immanuel-  God WITH us. “He will bear a son and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.  All this took place to fulfill what the LORD had spoken by the prophet: “Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Immanuel.” (Matthew 1:21-23) Immanuel is an amazing word – It’s three words put together into one: “GOD WITH US”. This speaks deeply to my heart. What a gift.  Not only did Jesus come to earth as our Savior but He came to be with us and His spirit remains with us forever. “You know him, for he dwells WITH you and will be IN you.” (John 14: 15-17) No matter what our circumstances may be, God’s presence is WITH us in the midst of them.  Stressful...

He is Always Reachable

The sound of a quick afternoon nap sounded so refreshing but just as I buried my head into the pillow, my iPhone beeped. It was the memory care facility calling to inform me that my mom had bitten a nurse.  Ouch.  I was embarrassed and worried that they would terminate her stay but at least the nurse was OK, the woman on the phone was assuring me. Before I could end the conversation, my youngest daughter ran in frantically looking for her dad, who had let our large, chocolate labradoodle loose (again)  – and he was harassing a friend who had just pulled up in his truck to return our cement mixer. Knowing how scary Rufus looks and frightening his growling bark sounds, I ended the phone call abruptly and rushed outside.  “I can’t reach Glen,” our friend said, “Is there someone around who can help me unload this?” Fortunately he seemed less concerned about Rufus than I was. “Of course, he couldn’t reach Glen,” I grumbled silently to myself, “he doesn’t carry his phone with him.”  I ran down the hill and around our guest house calling for my husband. With his truck in the driveway, I knew he was around somewhere. I crisscrossed the property calling for him in vain. “Was he lying somewhere hurt and unable to respond?” I wondered.  My worry turned to anger however when I found Glen chatting peacefully with Cam and Erin inside their home next door. “You let Rufus out again unsupervised,” I complained rather angrily, “and there are times – like now – when you really need to be reached.”...

Spiritual Heritage is Now Available

Last week I met with a sweet but very discouraged couple trying to hold on to hope for their children and family. They had grown angry and disillusioned with each other over disagreements on how to parent through difficult issues and choices their children were making. I couldn’t help but remember a similar season when Glen and I quit talking and instead allowed an icy wall to grow between us. Just like this couple, many of our disagreements rose out of how to parent our children.  Parenting is often fertile ground for conflict between two individuals who enter into this vital role from two different home environments and experiences. In writing a book together, I have thought a great deal about Glen’s and my journey as parents. We come from very different backgrounds and while we shared the same vision for our kids, we had entirely different perspectives on how to get there.  We frequently disagreed, yet neither disunity, nor mistakes, stopped God from furthering His work in all of us. In hindsight, I see it so much differently now.  I think of a cement mixer that blends cement and water together into a mixture that forms a strong foundation for a home.  With concrete, good outcomes result from the right proportions – a good mix design. Over the years, Glen and I finally grew willing to place ourselves into the “cement mixer” and blend our ideas and perspectives together. We learned that too much of Ellen wasn’t wise and neither was too much of Glen. This took humility by both of us.  This realization made a significant difference...

Mentor Confidence in Your Kids Through Mistakes

“Mom can I borrow 4 eggs?” Alisa asked as she and Asa, her five-year-old son, entered our kitchen this morning. “I brought Asa along so that we would have four hands to carry four eggs.” Asa held out both hands with a big smile on his face. Being trusted to help his mom in this way was a big deal to this little guy. “Hold them carefully because they will crack if you drop them Asa,” Alisa added as they walked out the door and headed back to their home next door. But he didn’t make it far with one egg slipping out of his small hand as he skipped down the sidewalk.  Asa stood there, frozen, looking down at the broken eggs and glancing up at me, standing in the door way. Many thoughts whirled around in my head in those few seconds… …. of how tempting it would be to say something like “You were told to be careful. Look what you did”  – to lecture him and point out how he had messed up. But I was reminded of the importance of affirming kids right when they mess up… – of being more vision driven than authoritative and that mentoring belief and confidence into my grandkids is a worthier goal than managing their behavior. So I cheerfully invited Asa back into the house and told him “Here’s another egg. This time I know you will get them both safely back to your house.”  And he did.  While it seems like a trivial issue, it was a moment when I could have easily chosen a judgmental “you-were-not-careful”...