Vision

God speaks to His people. He guides and plants vision into our hearts that inspires and moves us down certain paths. School Vision Veritas Academy has always been shaped by individuals who have been led by God-inspired vision.  I still remember many late-night board meetings back in the fall of 2005 when Veritas Academy first opened doors.  At one meeting, Jef Fowler spoke of seeing us on land – land with running streams and lots of trees.  Hills and rocks. Space for kids to enjoy the outdoors. Something stirred in me that evening.  I could envision what Jef was describing as well. For years, Jef diligently searched for such a school location.  Soon this dream will be a reality. I am confident that God has plans for Veritas Academy on our land that we are not even aware of yet. He has established our steps and He will not only bring the buildings to completion but all that He has in mind for us as well. Family Vision This past week, it became official that my grandkids, Asa and Alma, will be joining their sister and cousins at Veritas Academy in the fall. “How crazy is it,” I told my husband, “that ten of our grandchildren will attend Veritas together- and hopefully Beth will join them in the future as well.”  Veritas Academy, in so many ways, helps to fulfill dreams I held in my heart long ago.  Even as a child, I dreamed of being a mother to three children and doing life together with them.  I dreamed of unity and nurturing relationships, perhaps in part because these...

What a Year!

Last May, my life took on a whole new feel.  Not only did we move my mom in to live with us, but I learned of two pending book contracts:  one with my daughter Erin and one with my husband.  How exciting it felt to be extended the opportunity to write for publishing companies along side Erin and Glen. But the timing felt overwhelming and I found myself thinking, “This is great news but I won’t have any time to write now that I am taking care of my mom.” As many of you know, I struggled with all sorts of emotions this past year.  But as I look back, I do so with a sense of joy and even accomplishment.  I am so grateful for prayers and the many notes of support many of you sent my way. Just yesterday, a very dear friend send me an excerpt from May 10th in Jesus Calling: “DO NOT RESIST OR RUN from the difficulties in your life. These problems are not random mistakes; they are hand-tailored blessings designed for your benefit and growth. Embrace all the circumstances that I allow in your life, trusting Me to bring good out of them. View problems as opportunities to rely more fully on me.  When you start to feel stress, let those feelings alert you to your need for Me.” This May:  Our book – Put the Disciple into Discipline –  is about to be published. God is good. And His timing is ALWAYS right. What I could not envision a year ago was that unique insights would surface for the books merely...

The Time Has Come

The time has come. In just a few days, I will move my mom to a memory care facility.  It’s something I prayed would not have to happen. My emotions are all over the map.  One minute I feel relief to be getting some of my life back. The next minute I feel guilty for putting her into the care of strangers.  It  feels like “I give up – I can’t look after you.”  She will be hurt and angry at me. She won’t understand it.  She may even give up wanting to live. I feel joy over having cared for her well but also sorrow over those times that I lost my patience with her.  In all of it, God has graciously carried me.  He has wrapped me in His compassionate arms even when I have fallen short. This journey is filled with memories. As I take her through old photo albums, I too remember her before Alzheimer’s began to destroy her brain.  I remember her vitality and her charm.  I remember her “never give up” mindset and drive. I remember a time when she would have laid down her life for me rather than now expecting all of my life for her.  I remember when we were close. Now she needs daily reminders that I am her daughter and not merely a caregiver who prevents her from being independent and doing what she wants. I know it’s the right decision.  I love my mom and I will still spend regular time with her – but as her daughter and not her caregiver. That will be better for both...

13 Reasons

Dear Readers, I was recently made aware of the Netflix series sensation “13 Reasons Why, ”  which takes the viewer through thirteen recorded messages left behind by a teenage girl who commits suicide.  I have not watched an episode.  I did not even know this series existed.  However, I gained important insights from Kat Cannon, who watched the series, with its very mature content, with her teenage son. Below are her 13 reasons why she joined him in watching “13 Reasons Why.”  I encourage all parents, especially those of you with middle and high school age kids, to become aware of the content in this series.  If you kids are watching it, make sure to stick around and watch it with them. Thank you Kat, for sharing this important information and for being a guest blogger on my site.  I have included your full blog below.  You can find Kat at blog.katcannon.com.  She is the Director of Small Groups and Women’s Ministry at Austin Oaks Church. 13 Reasons Why I Watched “13 Reasons Why” April 26, 2017 My teenage son asked me a few weeks ago to let him watch the Netflix series sensation “13 Reasons Why”.  All his friends watch it, he says, but with a “mature content” rating, he needs my permission – and my passcode. After a quick consultation with my husband, I agree to sit down with the boy and screen the show with him. The series walks through thirteen recorded messages left behind by a high school junior girl who commits suicide.  And when the ratings police label this content for mature audiences only, they...

You Don’t Understand Me

“You don’t understand me,” my mom said as she began to cry. The words stung. I knew they held some truth in them. I want to be gentle with her – and be lovingly compassionate with her. I can do that most of the time, but then there are those times – when she begins to accuse me falsely or when she goes into a complaining mode – that I get worn down and snap at her. Rather than seeking to understand, I react to the words that spill out of her mouth. If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame. Proverbs 18:13 I read these words the other day and immediately knew they were meant for me. Sometimes I am too quick to answer before I hear what another person is really saying. Because of Alzheimer’s my mom struggles to retrieve words. Often what she says is not really what she means at all. Thus, I am getting lots of opportunities to practice listening to her intentions rather than her words. She may want butter and ask for cream. She’ll say her glasses are foggy when she feels dizzy. She’ll say she does not need to shower when what she is expressing is that she needs help in the process. Living with my mom grants me many opportunities to grow in listening to the meaning behind words. When I do that, my responses connect with what she really is trying to express rather than what bubbles up out of her mouth. Conflict between any individuals is best addressed by sincerely trying to...